There’s already far too much stigma surrounding menstruation that it would be disingenuous of me to add more fuel to the fire. Heck, period sex is amazing and it’s worth at least trying out at least once in your life.*
*You may find that once you give it a try, you won’t want to stop! After all, life’s too short to not have sex for 7 days a month just because you’re a little bloody.
Extra Preparation May Be Required
Fine, it can get messy. But you know, regular sex is quite messy, too (sweat, saliva, semen, am I right?!) You can either pop a towel down, use old sheets, or try having shower sex to keep it as mess free as possible. Keep some tissues handy for the clean up afterwards and you’ll be golden.
So yes, you might need prep a little before getting down ‘n’ dirty to avoid any extra mess, but then again you could just throw caution to the wind and just bleed freely.
Downsides to period sex? Sure, there are a few - but mostly due to misinformation.
MYTH: You Can’t Get Pregnant
So to clear things up, you can still get pregnant on your period. Sperm can live in the uterus for about five days, so if you have sex near the end of your period, it’s possible that the sperm will still be present during the early stages of ovulation - and then congratulations - you’re accidentally pregnant.
Always use birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Yes, the chances of conception are very slim, but why take the risk? Using birth control will prevent pregnancy and offer you peace of mind to truly relax, sit back, and enjoy the ride.
MYTH: You Can’t Catch Sexually Transmitted Infections
Second to the point above, you’re going to want to know that just because you’re on your period, it doesn’t mean you cannot contract/spread STIs. Remember, only condoms and dental dams can prevent the spread of STIs, and you should always use them unless you are with a partner who has been recently tested.
To sum up, the Ugly and The Bad of period sex are actually not too dissimilar to non-period sex. Now that we’re up to speed with the less glamorous side of menstrual hanky-panky, let’s dive right in to the good stuff.
It’s Not THAT Messy
Did you know that the average period is only 30-40ml of menstrual blood? That’s about a whole menstrual cup worth of fluid (The largest Zero Cup can hold up to 25ml of flow, but remember to remove it before penetrative sex).
Pro tip: missionary sex generally causes the least amount of bloodshed, simply because of gravity working in your favour, so kick it old-school and get lovin’.
Remember, you’re not going to be producing rivers of blood during your period. There’s no need to worry too much about a Niagara Falls situation in your pants, the reality is that you’ll be bleeding a lot less during intercourse than you might think.
Period blood is mostly liquid, and thus acts as additional lubrication. Many women don’t produce as much arousal fluid from their vaginas as they’d like, so they may use lubricants during sex. But when you’re on your period, menstrual flow can act a substitute lube. So whilst it may get messy, it’ll be a little slippier than usual, which can increase sexual pleasure.
Orgasms Reduce Cramps
If you’re having sex with a partner, oxytocin will be released, making you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, too. During an orgasm, the uterine muscles contract and increase blood flow, resulting in a marked reduction of menstrual cramps.
Incidentally, if you want to know more about natural cures for period pain, you should check out this blog post about how you can eliminate cramps once and for all.
And remember, you don’t have to have sex with a partner in order to orgasm, you could masturbate and bid adieu to those pesky menstrual cramps.
Most menstruators consider the side effects of their period to be worse than the actual blood flow. Bloating, low mood, headaches, anxiety… the list goes on. Period sex can help reduce many PMS symptoms. Boost your mood by doing the deed!
Endorphins from sex will boost your mood and make you feel on top of the world. If you suffer from migraines during menstruation, then orgasms will also help reduce headache symptoms. Plus, if you’re PMSing, then having an orgasm will certainly get rid of your blues and alleviate any traces of low mood. (What, I love orgasms okay!?)
Oral Sex Is Not Off The Menu
Oral sex the only way you can orgasm? No worries. Menstrual cups (like Zero) work by collecting your menstrual flow internally, simply pop in a cup and you’re good to go. One of the benefits of Zero Cup is that it can be worn for up to 12 hours without needing to be emptied (just think of the hours of extra play-time!)
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In addition, there’s no tampon string to get in the way and your partner won’t even know you’re wearing a cup. Many Zero users report feeling cleaner, fresher, and sexier when using the cup compared to traditional methods of sanitary protection.